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Saturday, December 10, 2011
The great response to my wife’s post from last week has prompted me to periodically post some more “Romantic Ideas.” For the most part these will be ideas that we’ve actually done. Maybe I’ll even get my wife to post a few of these as well.
The Christmas Countdown
Today’s romantic idea is something I did for her last year. It’s a “Romantic Countdown to Christmas.” Of course as with any romantic idea, you need to adapt it to your spouse’s particular favorite things. Times like this are why I say it is important to be a lifelong student of your spouse and what delights him or her most.
The idea the Christmas countdown is simple. Pick a number of days until Christmas. If you are a traditionalist, you might do the twelve days of Christmas. I did ten. Seven would work too. [edit: to be technically correct, the 12 days of Christmas actually follow after Christmas, which would work just as well.]
Then for each day give him or her a gift representing the number of days remaining until the “big day.” Here’s my list from last year:
- 10 – ten pretty fingers (gift card for a manicure)
- 9 – nine tasty treats (Cella chocolate covered cherries-her favorite)
- 8 – four pairs of Christmas-themed earrings (she loves these things)
- 7 – Christmas-themed arrangement of seven red roses
- 6 – Six string serenade (she picked songs I sang for her)
- 5 – five minute kiss
- 4 – four pairs of pretty panties
- 3 – a set of three Woodwick candles
- 2 – a side-by-side framed picture (us on one side and our daughters on the other)
- 1 – Christmas lingerie (OK this gift was more for me)
An Added Twist
Part of the fun is deciding a fun way to surprise them with the gift each day. I had a small wooden box with a lock on it. Each day the key would appear in an unexpected way. Jenni would unlock the box to find a note that gave a clue as to where to find the day’s present. I wrote a little poem for each. For example day eight, the four pairs of earrings, which were placed in some teacups she had on display:
What numbers eight, yet comes in twos?
Perhaps I’ll give a few more clues
It is something festive for the season
Given for the best of reasons
‘Tis love that causes me to give
Four gifts that hide where teacups live
If you have no gift for rhyme, do something else that works better for you: Send a text message or email with the clue for the day. Maybe get other family members involved. Leave a note taped to their bathroom mirror. Get creative! Have fun with it!
If you decide to try the Countdown to Christmas, stop back by and let us know how it worked out!
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