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Saturday, October 13, 2012


Keep Thinking, Doing, and Asking

We’ve reached the end of our 13-Day Intimacy Challenge. Congratulations, you made it!

Thank you for participating and for spending the past two weeks working on the intimacy in your marriage!

Whether or not you’ve been able to do the challenges every day or only a few days, it is my sincere hope that the time and effort you invested was beneficial to the intimacy level in your marriage. I want to thank those of you who commented here, on Facebook, via Twitter or by email. (Click these links to "like" or "follow" me.)

Important! Regardless of whether you have found this series helpful to your marriage or not, I’m asking you to do me a huge favor. Please spend one minute to take my quick feedback survey by clicking on the survey link below. It’s just seven quick multiple choice questions.

Journey To Surrender Intimacy Challenge Survey

As a thank you for taking the survey, if you so choose, I’ll gladly send you a nicely condensed pdf version of all 13 Intimacy Challenges plus the Intimacy Inventory from Day 1. Simply provide your email address in the space at the end of the survey and select either the wife’s and/or husband’s version. You’ll also have the option to subscribe to my Intimacy Challenge Monthly email newsletter or to receive a Super-Bonus Day 14 Challenge, available only to those who take the survey.



Day 13 for Wives
Keep on Thinking, Doing and Asking




Keep Thinking

Growing intimacy starts in your head. Thinking about your marriage and husband in the right way matters more than whether or not you did all the challenges exactly as I prescribed. When you get your thoughts straight, the doing part happens more naturally and consistently. If you have the right mindset, you will be able to continue to grow closer to your husband with intimacy actions and ideas of your own.

As you reflect on the series today, see if you can find one or a few areas where you identified wrong thinking through the challenge. I encourage you to write down the simple ideas that most spoke to your heart and remind yourself of them periodically.

Changing your mindset doesn’t happen overnight or by a single exposure to a new idea. You have to practice right thinking by frequently reminding yourself what your really believe.

Right thinking leads to right doing. 


Keep Doing 

The daily challenges, whether you were able to do all of them or just a few, were intended to give you specific steps you could take to grow intimacy.

As you can imagine, it’s really difficult to give specific ideas that will work for every marriage situation. The best intimacy ideas will come from you, so they will be tailored specifically for your marriage and your husband.

Your challenge today is for you to come up with one specific action you can take in the next 24 hours to grow the intimacy between you and your husband. It could even be something that goes along with the “thinking” part of today’s challenge. Or maybe go back and do a challenge that you weren’t able to do at the time. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture. Simple things, done consistently, will make a huge difference in your marriage.



Keep Asking

Communication is key to maintaining intimacy in marriage. Never forget that intimacy is all about being fully known and yet fully loved. You can't have intimacy without conversation.

Want to know how this challenge has affected your husband? Ask him,
 
"How has the intimacy level in our marriage changed in the last two weeks?"



Day 13 for Husbands
Keep on Thinking, Doing and Asking




Keep Thinking

Growing intimacy starts in your head. Thinking about your marriage and wife in the right way matters more than whether or not you did all the challenges exactly as I prescribed. When you get your thoughts straight, the doing part happens more naturally and consistently. If you have the right mindset, you will be able to continue to grow closer to your wife with intimacy actions and ideas of your own.

As you reflect on the series today, see if you can find one or a few areas where you identified wrong thinking through the challenge. I encourage you to write down the simple ideas that most spoke to your heart and remind yourself of them periodically.

Changing your mindset doesn’t happen overnight or by a single exposure to a new idea. You have to practice right thinking by frequently reminding yourself what your really believe.

Right thinking leads to right doing. 


Keep Doing 

The daily challenges, whether you were able to do all of them or just a few, were intended to give you specific steps you could take to grow intimacy.

As you can imagine, it’s really difficult to give specific ideas that will work for every marriage situation. The best intimacy ideas will come from you, so they will be tailored specifically for your marriage and your wife.

Your challenge today is for you to come up with one specific action you can take in the next 24 hours to grow the intimacy between you and your wife. It could even be something that goes along with the “thinking” part of today’s challenge. Or maybe go back and do a challenge that you weren’t able to do at the time. It doesn’t need to be a grand gesture. Simple things, done consistently, will make a huge difference in your marriage.



Keep Asking

Communication is key to maintaining intimacy in marriage.Never forget that intimacy is all about being fully known and yet fully loved. You can't have intimacy without conversation.

Want to know how this challenge has affected your wife? Ask her,
 
"How has the intimacy level in our marriage changed in the last two weeks?"



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