tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post3060091569428076291..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: His Needs, Her Needs, Your NeedsScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-2117006370864807782011-11-08T15:21:44.700-05:002011-11-08T15:21:44.700-05:00We must be on a similar wavelength.
One slight ...We must be on a similar wavelength. <br /><br />One slight difference in perspective to point out, then my own take. <br /><br />I actually believe husbands should especially be like the Savior--like God as much as possible. But what is God actually like? When we pray to him, does he usually solve all our problems for us, take care of our needs for us? Or does he almost always expect us to figure it out--perhaps by giving us ideas or additional strength to work through our problems on our own? <br /><br />God doesn't take care of all our needs for us, either.<br /><br />I'm certain that if I sat home all day and prayed for breakfast in bed, I could pray till I'm blue in the face and no breakfast would magically appear--either I would do it, or a real live person would bring it to me.<br /><br />Now, to your excellent points, which I fully agree--from one recent post I've made about selfishness:<br />"However, the problem with just preaching “don’t be selfish,” is that all of us have blind spots in which we don’t know how we might be selfish. Men and women have very different needs, so we may not know how deficient we are in helping our spouse. A more important key might be clear, persistent, and honest communication--by both actions and words."<br /><br />Sometimes, especially for example, in physical intimacy, men and women are wired so differently, that both may need to communicate--with both actions and words--to the point of almost feeling they are going overboard. A man may need to be extremely persistent and determined in order to be fulfilled.<br /><br />And--that's what his loving wife wants--to be his source of greatest joy. I see this as being more honest and real with your spouse.<br /><br />My selfishness post is here:<br /><br />http://goodstrongmen.blogspot.com/2011/10/marriage-and-selfishness.htmlStrong Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03397861817336193206noreply@blogger.com