tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post4681858430395498264..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: The Great EscapeScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-81008142706514662652012-10-04T13:59:39.780-04:002012-10-04T13:59:39.780-04:00My husband and I have been married for 7 years. W...My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We went away for our 1 and 2 anniversaries, but have not since. Our children are 2 and almost 4 and we have never had a night away from them. I feel incredibly guilty leaving them when we already have to leave them with grandparents while we go to work. We have no close friends who could watch them. To me it does sound like fun, but also incredibly selfish. Julie Shutthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08524848732988229802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-79845639183817159522012-10-04T13:58:29.928-04:002012-10-04T13:58:29.928-04:00My husband and I have been married for 7 years. W...My husband and I have been married for 7 years. We went away for our 1 and 2 anniversaries, but have not since. Our children are 2 and almost 4 and we have never had a night away from them. I feel incredibly guilty leaving them when we already have to leave them with grandparents while we go to work. We have no close friends who could watch them. To me it does sound like fun, but also incredibly selfish. Julie Shutthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08524848732988229802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-65167584342690757022010-09-03T13:32:00.148-04:002010-09-03T13:32:00.148-04:00I agree that this is probably good advice -- becau...I agree that this is probably good advice -- because my parents never, ever did this. Not once while I lived at home. They thought they were doing us a favour -- they believed it was selfish and mean to go have fun without us. But I think it would have been good for their marriage. I wish they would have taken time for romance and intimacy, and to build their relationship. Because they failed to do these things, I failed to understand for most of my life that children were a product of their love rather than the main reason for their parents' existence.<br /><br />Thanks for mentioning it. I'll have to keep it in mind for if/when we ever have kids.Kathleen Quiring | Project Mhttp://projectmonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-58375856081343613272010-09-01T23:07:05.921-04:002010-09-01T23:07:05.921-04:00Lori, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I do comp...Lori, thanks for sharing your thoughts. I do completely understand the logistical struggle to find care that you feel you can trust when kids are tiny. And I didn't wish to imply that it is easy. That's one of the reason I emplore every couple who is reading this that is in a relatively close relationship with a young couple to give them a break and watch their kids for them. It is well worth the sacrifice!Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-33639546362416773462010-09-01T11:57:16.362-04:002010-09-01T11:57:16.362-04:00I have to say this is a big challenge for those wi...I have to say this is a big challenge for those without grandparents who can help. (Our parents work full-time and care for an ailing spouse.) We took a weekend away for our 10-year anniversary, and it was challenging to get our two kids (then 3 and 5) covered for that time. We had a great time. Now that they are five years older and more self-sufficient, I feel comfortable trading overnights or weekends with close friends or relatives, but it's not easy to leave your babies or toddlers with teenage babysitters or non-family members. We take 1-2 nights away when we can, but we still don't know how we could manage a week away alone. However, I still believe we have a strong marriage despite this challenge and work to make best use of the time we do have, even if it's after the kids are in bed or out on a date. <br /><br />This is a big change for us since before kids we traveled to many countries and had lots of adventures, for which we are grateful. We don't lament our inability to travel together right now, but we look forward to doing it again in the future, both as a family and as a couple.Lori Lowehttp://www.lifegems4marriage.comnoreply@blogger.com