tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post1237202349655065168..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: Seven Gifts the Church Should Give America for Her BirthdayScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-36483514436246385672014-07-06T08:27:36.713-04:002014-07-06T08:27:36.713-04:00I would say to #1, focus more on marriage and not ...I would say to #1, focus more on marriage and not so much on fighting same sex marriage. That would address two aspects of the issue. First, if the divorce rate looks little different inside the church compared to outside, how can the church speak with any credibility on the topic? Second, far more marriages are destroyed by divorce on demand, no fault divorce than we'll ever dream of being destroyed by same sex marriage.<br /><br />I'd add stop disproportionately blaming men. We keep hearing how men are not committed to their families. Yet when you look at who is choosing divorce, by and large, it's not husbands, but wives who are choosing no-fault divorce and tossing out their husband. <br /><br />Don't mis-understand. I'm not saying there are not things husbands can do. What I'm saying is that in most of those cases, the husband is NOT engaged in any of the major marital misconduct that people argues gives the betrayed spouse a get out of marriage card. Most of these abandoned husbands are not abusive, adulterous nor addicted.<br /><br />On mother's day, we hear how mothers walk on water just like Jesus and Peter. On father's day, we keep hearing how men need to step it up.<br /><br />When my ex-wife had her affair, instead of our pastor confronting her, he asked me what I did to force her to have an affair.<br /><br />Come to find out, his response is not atypical of what men who find out their wives are cheating and/or has filed for divorce receive from their churches.tbrighthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02576474373910865832noreply@blogger.com