tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post2662799051762730738..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: [Wives Only Wednesday] What Submission is Not! Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-42960626912041829742014-01-24T08:43:06.866-05:002014-01-24T08:43:06.866-05:00Olivia - It is helpful to realize that your "...Olivia - It is helpful to realize that your "position" as wife, as defined in the Bible (Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3 and elsewhere), has nothing to do with your "personality." The same is true for your husband. The way biblical roles of submission and leadership look will be different for every couple.<br /><br />As far as hopes and dreams for the future, I would work toward really understanding what is in each other's hearts. What underlays the dreams for the future? Then you would do well to pray together and seek God's heart for your future. Surrender it to Him. He is good and has only good for your future and for your marriage. <br /><br />A biblically ordered marriage does not reduce the need for good communications skills, in fact it requires more. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-22246819858410603822014-01-23T14:56:25.249-05:002014-01-23T14:56:25.249-05:00This is so timely for me. I'm a newly wed and ...This is so timely for me. I'm a newly wed and am finding these concepts a real struggle for me. By nature I am a strong woman and my husband is a more mellow and peaceful type. I often find myself in a really confused place. I don't know how to be submissive without squashing my personality entirely. Also I'm really fearful of dreaming with my husband. I don't know how to deal with dreams that he has that are different to mine (not fundamentally different) every time we talk about the future it turns into a big fight...The husband and wife roles are so confusing sometimes....Olivia Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05903781747028206833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-7035906828794791382014-01-23T09:14:51.757-05:002014-01-23T09:14:51.757-05:00Robyn - Thanks for sharing your 'old self'...Robyn - Thanks for sharing your 'old self' history!Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-65041057080871950942014-01-22T11:52:00.078-05:002014-01-22T11:52:00.078-05:00Wow I guess I had a full blown case then because I...Wow I guess I had a full blown case then because I was all three. In my head I knew what God had instructed in His Word - I completely understood it from the perspective of knowledge ... my heart just didn't like what my head was learning. So I would try to 'act' in submission (sitting down on the outside while my inner 'girl' was standing up on the outside). When I couldn't keep up the 'door mat' charade any longer I would turn to grouch. The same pattern with 'the boss' - when Darrell would call me on my attitude toward him - I would swing back into the grouch.<br /><br />It wasn't until I discovered that I was blaming Darrell for God's instruction to me as a wife. My fight was with God all along.<br /><br />Great post! Thanks for letting me revisit my old self! I really do mean "thanks". It's very easy for us extroverted personality types to fall back to our default. We need reminding.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com