tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post2889705105244079995..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: One Flesh (Part 2): Unity vs. IndividualityScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-41585628717951578542010-04-05T01:28:38.035-04:002010-04-05T01:28:38.035-04:00I agree with this: "I don’t see that when a m...I agree with this: "I don’t see that when a man and a woman marry the two individuals leave themselves behind and become part of a new third identity as a married couple." I've almost been married a year and sometimes I look up and my husband and I are too close. Mainly because we've had only one car for the past 7 months, so we've been taking some space apart. It's a good thing sometimes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-65694384824867940262010-03-27T09:39:01.222-04:002010-03-27T09:39:01.222-04:00Shannon, I completely agree that staying naked wit...Shannon, I completely agree that staying naked without shame and continuing to bring the fullness of yourself to your marriage is a neverending and ever-challenging process. It goes against our very natures. <br /><br />Newlywed, I have to admit that I'm addicted to my wife (sent her just those words on IM yesterday!). I find being with her intoxicating. I don't think that wanting and needing and enjoying your spouse is a bad thing, as long as you don't try to be fake in order to try to get the same response from them.<br /><br />Thanks to both of your for your comments.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-49880026094294180792010-03-25T15:06:29.804-04:002010-03-25T15:06:29.804-04:00Thank you for this post. From a different perspect...Thank you for this post. From a different perspective, I recently wrote about how I feel like I used to be addicted to my husband. I have always been perfectly willing to give up my own identity, but now I'm actively working on my individuality.<br /><br />Your post made me think of Constructicons. Does anyone remember those? Several Transformers would join together to create a bigger, stronger Transformer. (Your 'adding strength to strength' line triggered thought.) Individually, the Transformers were great and strong, but together they could accomplish something bigger than them - but the best part is that they could then come apart and still be themselves.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-47584747190008695012010-03-25T14:12:28.823-04:002010-03-25T14:12:28.823-04:00Amen! I definitely have not lost my self, but fee...Amen! I definitely have not lost my self, but feel I have found the self I always have been meant to be. There is so much security and trust found in the place of being fully known and fully loved. Okay I wrote the above thinking of our marriage. Now I read it in terms of my relationship with God. Amen!Jennihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02380385221306974200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-29500179850215435022010-03-24T20:15:03.892-04:002010-03-24T20:15:03.892-04:00Great post!
I love the way you describe marriage ...Great post!<br /><br />I love the way you describe marriage as<em> bringing the fullness of your self, naked and unashamed, without fear, into the relationship. </em><br /><br />I don't even think that I could conceive of what it truly meant to bring the fullness of my self to a relationship, prior to being married.<br /><br />It's something we have to continue to do as we grow and change as people, keep showing up for our spouse and continue to show them who our full self is.<br /><br />I am grateful that you underline that marriage <em>also means not casting judgment on your spouse when he/she does the same, but responding instead with love and grace.</em><br /><br />That is something so critical, but often forgotten in a world where we are often judged as a function of daily life.Shannon O | Confessions of a Loving Wifehttp://confessionsofalovingwife.com/noreply@blogger.com