tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post3328318301919727133..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: Which Way Are You Leaning? [Man-Up Monday]Scotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-78272616684453404322012-07-03T11:52:03.641-04:002012-07-03T11:52:03.641-04:00Thanks CM. Yes, if wives would understand that th...Thanks CM. Yes, if wives would understand that their husbands are not mind readers it would help a lot. Most good-willed husbands really do want to do the right thing, they just need a little help knowing what that is. And it's also important to remember that what she needs today may not be at all what she needs tomorrow!Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-87299747654893581412012-07-02T22:57:36.330-04:002012-07-02T22:57:36.330-04:00Terrific post and a good reminder that women need ...Terrific post and a good reminder that women need to articulate in a clear and courageous manner what it is they need from their husbands!Chronic Marriagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14579691478151679145noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-76068078274518416092012-07-02T19:54:15.573-04:002012-07-02T19:54:15.573-04:00Good point, Bill. Leaning in doesn't mean for...Good point, Bill. Leaning in doesn't mean forcing your way in where it isn't helpful. It does mean listening and being discerning to where she needs and wants your involvement, where you might not otherwise do so.Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-50880600928828453222012-07-02T17:38:00.039-04:002012-07-02T17:38:00.039-04:00With Christ being my first priority for life and t...With Christ being my first priority for life and then my dear bride being second most important I cannot help but think that I need to continue to ask God to give me a heart that will serve her more. Though on the side I will benefit somehow, I am not the focus. Supporting my beloved for the sake of blessing Christ and her is what it is all about. Sometimes this will mean offering to be there in a specific instance while accepting that she may need space and involvement from another. My security is not tied into me being the hero and having to force myself into every situation. Even in the realm of supporting my wife while she tends to the well being of her mother who tends to not like me. Now my dear bride appreciates the dynamics of this difficult in-law relationship so she does not have unrealistic expectations. We mutually minister grace and patience in our opportunities God places us in. So leaning in can involve holding back when it would serve my wife best. This still requires humility on my part, but that is reality. In the Grip of Christ's Grace!Bill Standishhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15663973052945020623noreply@blogger.com