tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post5670553645206483370..comments2023-07-30T05:51:02.673-04:00Comments on Journey to Surrender: Don't Get Stuck in DisappointmentScotthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-5124424919220350802016-04-25T16:06:57.335-04:002016-04-25T16:06:57.335-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02604500352111196342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-24682797511273400972013-08-11T19:50:13.286-04:002013-08-11T19:50:13.286-04:00Nancy - I am so glad to hear you had the determina...Nancy - I am so glad to hear you had the determination to hang in there and see your marriage restored! God is faithful!<br /><br />Jer Ber - You are right bitterness is dangerous, as is every other negative emotion triggered by disappointment. Deal with it now, or else!<br /><br />Robyn - What? You mean your aren't perfect? I'm so disappointed! Ha! It's so true that we have to realize that we both will disappoint each other from time to time. It's good to stay humble and acknowledge that, as long as you don't get caught up in beating yourself over the head about it. Show grace to your spouse and to yourself. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-17802006234510183662013-08-10T14:34:24.209-04:002013-08-10T14:34:24.209-04:00For me the key to remember is that we both have ou...For me the key to remember is that we both have our fair share of disappointing each other.<br /><br />Years ago, I believed it was all ME who was suffering all the disappointments. Meaning: I could do no wrong.<br /><br />It was a shocking day when I learned that I wasn't the harmless little weak 'flower' that I thought I was. In fact, I was quite as capable of causing just as much disappointment in my husband's life.<br /><br />Once we see our own guilt and own it, I think marriages have a better chance.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-9071313258210167672013-08-10T09:31:37.611-04:002013-08-10T09:31:37.611-04:00Bitterness is very dangerous...It distorts your th...Bitterness is very dangerous...It distorts your thinking and can destroy your marriage, family, & even life...JerBerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07121426888759642140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-59335640048687188662013-08-10T08:29:25.920-04:002013-08-10T08:29:25.920-04:00I think partly, it’s just that you keep going…
Som...I think partly, it’s just that you keep going…<br />Some disappointments are short-lived.<br />Some are life long.<br /><br />You pray, you work hard at it, <br />you seek appropriate counsel,<br />but you just keep going... <br /><br />Don’t give up on the marriage.<br /><br />If you are emotionally/ spiritually strong, <br />you do all the things <br />that Betty mentioned in her blog.<br /><br />But even if you are not that strong,<br />even if you do get mired in disappointment<br />it is not over –<br /> there is always hope –<br /> even if you can’t “see it”.<br /><br />My own marriage is testimony to this.<br />I had lost all hope <br />that things would ever improve.<br />We both had “worked hard” at it,<br />but there didn’t seem to be any way <br />to get past the impact <br />of the pain and distance <br />that on-going disappointments lead to. <br /><br />The surprise ingredient <br />that aided the healing was, <br /><br />T I M E.<br /><br />Years.<br /><br />Who knew?<br /><br />By God’s grace alone, <br />we hadn’t bailed out on the marriage.<br />If we had, we would have missed out on <br />this new land that we have entered into:<br />quiet contentment and <br />genuine pleasure in each other.<br />Nancy Lehmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14087361506113733248noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-80609389489073354662013-08-09T09:48:53.071-04:002013-08-09T09:48:53.071-04:00Thanks Debi. Yes festering disappointment can easi...Thanks Debi. Yes festering disappointment can easily lead to many other destructive emotions, like anger, resentment, fear, etc. It's always best to deal with it head on rather than trying to push it down. Never works. Scotthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15382135979097709418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2613335924468202284.post-79087662237221567692013-08-09T07:34:47.246-04:002013-08-09T07:34:47.246-04:00Scott,
This is such an excellent post. I can think...Scott,<br />This is such an excellent post. I can think of friends who have faced such huge disappointments and came out of it closer and stronger as a result. And I can think of others who have crumbled under the weight of it all. I don't think this part of marriage gets discussed enough, so you've done a great service to the marriage community by passing on this wisdom from God (through your sister-in-law's writing gift.) I recently went through a season of being "disappointed", but it was really anger towards God masked as disappointment. It was an enormous eye-opening time for me, where God helped me delve into the motives and cravings of my heart. This is where healing and release comes, and thank God He lead me to a place of peace, trust and joy again. The post I'm speaking of is this one: http://theromanticvineyard.com/2013/08/07/time-to-pull-back-the-curtain/<br />Thank you for sharing. I'm going to spend some time re-reading it and allowing the Holy Spirit to further deal with my heart. Like she said, "I take responsibility for my own baggage and my own reactions." Well said!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com