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Friday, April 8, 2016
4:59 PM | Posted by Scott | Edit Post
What is this thing called the Journey to Surrender?
If you are new here, or even if you've been around a while, read on to find out about me, about why I write this marriage blog, and explore what I believe about marriage.
For all my readers, new and old, I encourage you to leave me a comment introducing yourself and letting me know what marriage topics would be most helpful or interesting to you. Or if you haven't done so yet, just take my One Minute New Reader Survey.
The Journey to Surrender is about exploring, discovering and attaining the fullest potential in Christian marriage. It is an exciting expedition available to every Christian couple willing to travel the biblical path of God’s design for marriage, a path filled with fiery passion, unmatched intimacy and joyous freedom.
I believe that having our hearts awakened to the love a relationship with Jesus is the key to a vibrant, passionate, intimate and enduring relationship between husband and wife. God instituted marriage as a living picture of his passionate pursuit of humankind in general and of you and I in particular. The biblical notion that we are the bride of Christ and He is our Bridegroom is what I and others refer to as the Bridal Paradigm.
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Who Am I?
My name is Scott Means, and I describe myself as a "marriage champion."
I have been married to my darling wife, Jenni, in excess of 30 years, but I do not claim to have all the answers or to have a perfect marriage. Marriage is a lifelong journey into ever deeper intimacy.
I have studied a lot about what the Bible says on marriage. I've read extensively what others have to say on the topic, Christian as well as secular sources, as I've passionately pursued understanding of God's intent for marriage. I do not claim to have cornered the market on insight or understanding, but I am excited to see marriages in the church strengthened, renewed and restored to their God-given potential.
Let me clearly state that I am NOT a professional marriage counselor, NOT a self proclaimed “relationship expert,” NOT a licensed psychologist, and NOT a trained pastor or theologian.
I simply have a message to share that burns on my heart. It's a message that I believe also burns on the heart of God.
Why I write
The fact that the failure rate of marriages in the church is not more significantly different than among the population at large saddens me deeply, and I believe God’s heart is equally saddened by the number of failed and struggling marriages, both inside and outside the church.
I believe strong, enduring and loving marriages are the key to solving so many of society's long-standing, deeply rooted problems.
Sadly, I also believe that in an effort to gain relevance, the church has often co-opted common cultural perspectives on marriage, rather than relying on biblical instruction. The church has, at least to some extent, lost sight of the fact that at its core marriage is a spiritual relationship, full of mystery and wonder and power.
I write to encourage Christian couples to take a turn off the path of the prevalent cultural marriage paradigm and to take a journey of a different sort - the Journey to Surrender.
Join me here as we explore how God designed marriage to be from the very beginning.
For why I write to Christians see: My Christian Marriage Focus
What I believe
What I believe about marriage is based on my belief that the Bible is the Word of God, that it is true, and that it is the primary way God reveals His truths to us. I’m not a theologian, but what I write here is primarily a result of my ongoing pursuit of what God's Word has to say about marriage.
For a more thorough exploration of my marriage beliefs, see my 7-part series "What I Believe About Marriage."
- Marriage is God's Thing
- What to Do With the Gap
- The Bridal Paradigm
- An Ordered Partnership
- For Husbands Only: Lead with Love
- For Wives Only: Love, Respect and Submission
- What is a Surrendered Marriage?
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