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Saturday, December 10, 2011

Are you still stuck for an idea of what to give your spouse for Christmas? Or maybe you’ve already bought a gift (or gifts) but you are looking for an extra special way to bless him or her this year.

The great response to my wife’s post from last week has prompted me to periodically post some more “Romantic Ideas.” For the most part these will be ideas that we’ve actually done. Maybe I’ll even get my wife to post a few of these as well.

The Christmas Countdown

Today’s romantic idea is something I did for her last year. It’s a “Romantic Countdown to Christmas.” Of course as with any romantic idea, you need to adapt it to your spouse’s particular favorite things. Times like this are why I say it is important to be a lifelong student of your spouse and what delights him or her most.

The idea the Christmas countdown is simple. Pick a number of days until Christmas. If you are a traditionalist, you might do the twelve days of Christmas. I did ten. Seven would work too. [edit: to be technically correct, the 12 days of Christmas actually follow after Christmas, which would work just as well.]

Then for each day give him or her a gift representing the number of days remaining until the “big day.” Here’s my list from last year:
  • 10 – ten pretty fingers (gift card for a manicure)
  • 9 – nine tasty treats (Cella chocolate covered cherries-her favorite)
  • 8 – four pairs of Christmas-themed earrings (she loves these things)
  • 7 – Christmas-themed arrangement of seven red roses
  • 6 – Six string serenade (she picked songs I sang for her)
  • 5 – five minute kiss
  • 4 – four pairs of pretty panties
  • 3 – a set of three Woodwick candles
  • 2 – a side-by-side framed picture (us on one side and our daughters on the other)
  • 1 – Christmas lingerie (OK this gift was more for me)
The gifts don’t have to be large or expensive. It really is the thought that counts in this particular romantic endeavor!

An Added Twist

Part of the fun is deciding a fun way to surprise them with the gift each day. I had a small wooden box with a lock on it. Each day the key would appear in an unexpected way. Jenni would unlock the box to find a note that gave a clue as to where to find the day’s present. I wrote a little poem for each.  For example day eight, the four pairs of earrings, which were placed in some teacups she had on display:

What numbers eight, yet comes in twos?
Perhaps I’ll give a few more clues

It is something festive for the season
Given for the best of reasons

‘Tis love that causes me to give
Four gifts that hide where teacups live

If you have no gift for rhyme, do something else that works better for you: Send a text message or email with the clue for the day. Maybe get other family members involved. Leave a note taped to their bathroom mirror. Get creative! Have fun with it!

If you decide to try the Countdown to Christmas, stop back by and let us know how it worked out!

 Don't miss my other Romantic Ideas!


Anonymous said...

Two Christmases ago I bought my wife an advent calendar. It is shaped like a Christmas tree and made of little (2"x2"x2") boxes with numbered doors on them. Each day of December leading up to Christmas I leave her a little poem clue leading her to her treat for the day. Sometimes it's a present, other times its a love letter or a surprise date. It's been a huge hit with my wife--gifts are definitely one of her leading love languages!

Scott said...

Great idea anon! Thanks for sharing it.

Debi - The Romantic Vineyard said...

This is great! Thank you for taking the time to share such an fun idea that is easily adaptable!
Merry Christmas!

Scott said...

Debi, there are lots of different ways to do this. We had a really fun time with it last year.

Expart69 said...

It is excellent romantic idea! Thanks for it. Actually romantic ideas capture the passion and excitement associated with falling in love. For this reason romantic ideas need to have an amorous aspect to it.
Merry Christmas!

Anonymous said...

Super idea! I found a site that actually has a romance plan called, "The Twelve Days of Christmas' Romance Plan. I don't think it's fair to drop site names, so I'll just say that it looks like I'll be spending less on their plan (in total), even though I must purchase the plan itself. Thank you for sharing your gift of creativity!

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