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Wednesday, April 25, 2012
Chances are you’ll mostly notice
the décor: furnishings, color schemes, curtains, pictures, etc. But what makes
that home endure through the years has much more to do with the foundation
underneath the home and the framework behind the walls. In the end, the stuff we don’t see and tend
not to pay attention to is much more important than the things we notice
most.
It’s the same for your
marriage.
Without a doubt, the foundation
of your marriage is what will make it last.
And that foundation needs to be Jesus.
To quote an old hymn, “On Christ the solid rock I stand, all other
ground is sinking sand.”
So, what’s the foundation of
your marriage?
It’s really easy to build
your marriage on other stuff. It could
be your kids, your financial success and material possessions, or even your
religious activities. But kids grow up
and move out, financial success ebbs and flows, material possessions ultimately ring
hollow, and religious activities keep you busy but don’t equate to a genuine relationship
with God.
A lasting marriage should be
built on the foundation of a husband’s and a wife’s intimate and passionate
relationship with Jesus – and nothing else.
God, the very inventor of marriage itself, is the key to a strong and
enduring marriage. There is no substitute!
Your relationship with,
knowledge of and intimacy with God must be your foundation.
Once a firm foundation is
established, the framework of your marriage is next in importance. Just like
the walls of a house determine its strength, so does the framework of your
marriage.
The framework of your
marriage is composed of the things you believe and how you think about your
marriage and your spouse. It’s the lens
through which you see.
My personal lens is that God
created marriage to be a reflection of the love relationship between Jesus, our
Bridegroom, and us, the church, His bride.
This is what I call the Bridal Paradigm , it’s this framework
helps me see that my marriage should be full of things like unselfish love,
unconditional giving, faithfulness, passion, trust and freedom This is what Paul call “the great mystery” of
marriage in Ephesians 5:32.
Here’s a truth: it’s almost impossible to have a Bridal
Paradigm framework without a foundation built on intimacy with the Bridegroom. Did you ever notice how cracks in the wall
usually point to problems with the foundation?
We substitute any number of
belief systems for God’s intended design for marriage. Some believe that marriage is about their personal happiness and fulfillment. Some see marriage simply as a social
construct instead of a covenant relationship.
Still others acknowledge marriage is the important backbone of our civil
society, but fall short of seeing it as the Divine creation that it is.
Closely coupled to your
belief system is the way you think about your marriage. How you think about your marriage and spouse can
either add to the strength of the framework or take away from it. Check out my post “What Do You Think” for more thought on the importance of right thinking and some practical
tips.
At last we are down to the
things that people spend most of their time and attention on: the fixtures.
The fixtures in your
marriage are many: friends, family, children, finances, your home, careers, vacations,
religious activities, possessions and more.
Don’t get me wrong; I’m not saying these things are bad or unimportant. It’s just that giving most of our attention
to them will do little to build a strong, stable and lasting marriage.
The fixtures and furnishings
in your marriage are what help to make it comfortable, enjoyable and inviting
for you and for others. Do your best to
make it so! Absolutely!
Fixtures are fine, but realize that
when it comes to making your marriage strong and lasting, the foundation and
framework should get the bulk of your attention and effort!
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3 comments:
Great Post Honey! Still remember the lyrics to the song you wrote me in high school, "We know that we're never alone God's on the throne of our hearts"
excellent thoughts!! Thanks!
I agree with you completely in saying that every marriage should have God as its core foundation. And just as important as it is to keep Him the center of our marriage, we should also keep Him the center of our individual lives. Yes, there are plenty of other things that we can build our marriage on, but most of these can turn out to be the things that can tear our marriage apart. Keeping God in the center will always be the best thing that we can do.
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