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Monday, April 22, 2013

Useless Tidbits About My Life and Blogging

Since Kate at One Flesh Marriage offered her post “10 Confessions of a Marriage Blogging Wife,”  I’ve been itching to offer up my own true confessions.

So here they are in no particular order:

1 – I’m an Engineer

This one might surprise you, or it might make you say, “Oh, now it makes sense.” I have no formal training as a writer or marriage counselor or any other educational experience that applies to this marriage blogging thing I do (except the school of life!). So please forgive my poor sentence structure, mis-use of words and notoriously poor proofing skills. Next time you catch me dangling a participle, just say to yourself. “It’s okay, he’s an engineer.”

2 – I’m a Perfectionist

This one makes #1 hard for me. I don’t like doing anything half way. The fact that I don’t have the time I would like to research, optimize and edit each post causes me no end of frustration. I almost always eventually catch my mistakes, but it is almost always after the post has been seen by 1,000+ people. And I cringe every time.

3 – Blogging Is Harder Than It Looks

Truth be told, I had no idea what I was getting into when I started this blog a little over three years ago. I thought to myself, “I like to write. I have a passion for marriage. How hard can this be?” It didn’t take me long to find out that doing this well takes much more time and energy than a full-time employed person can possibly give it. Still, I write on. It’s been especially difficult lately now that my “day job” has significantly encroached into my blogging schedule, which is why my last post was more than two weeks ago. See also #2.

4 – I Enjoy the Marriage Blogging Community

Jenni and I have formed some wonderful friendships with fellow marriage bloggers. These relationships with others in the marriage blogging community came as a total surprise to me, and it is a wonderful bonus to be able to “lock shields” with others with a similar passion to see marriages become all they can be. There are so many doing great stuff that I can only keep up with a fraction of the many great blogs that I have come across.

5 – I’m a Worship Leader and Song Writer

It doesn’t come up much here, but my other calling from God is as a volunteer worship leader at my church. I’ve been doing that since high school - a lot longer than I’ve been involved in marriage ministry. I’m blessed to be in a church (Northlands Church near Atlanta) full of wonderfully talented musicians and full of people who love to pour out their hearts in worship. I also write music – mostly worship songs for our local church.

6 – I Love to Learn

I have an insatiable curiosity. I am fascinated by history. I love to delve into science and technology. I am plugged into news and political commentary pretty much every day, either online, on TV or on the radio. My family gets annoyed with me for reading every informational plaque in the museum. Oh, and I can’t resist a “cool map.” Of course I also love to learn about marriage. At any given time I have at least ten unread marriage books on my Kindle (and even a few in paper).

7 – I Still Have a Lot to Learn

I have a wonderful marriage and a wonderful wife, but we are far from perfect. I actually don’t think the perfect marriage exists, because there is always more: more intimacy, more passion, more selfless love, more trust and transparency – more of all the stuff that makes a marriage great. I make my share of marriage mistakes, but I’m thankful that I have a wife who is full of unconditional love for me. Sometimes I need Jenni to gently remind me of my own advice!

8 – I Have Too Many Ideas for Posts

I keep multiple lists of post ideas, which I add to weekly. These lists now run into many dozens of potential posts. If I had the time, which I don’t, I could write a post every day of the week - maybe twice a day.

9 – I Have “Finished” Writing a Book On Marriage

Actually, I finished the draft one year ago this month. Unfortunately it took me so long to write it that I now need to do a major amount of editing and revision. I don’t actually agree with some of what I wrote back when I began writing the book, which goes back about four years or more. (I can’t even remember exactly when I started working on it!) I have also written a marriage small group curriculum that goes along with the book. We have used it a few times in our own church. Some day there will be time to finish these projects.

10 – I Love Jesus

Hopefully this one doesn’t come as a surprise to any of you: I think Jesus is awesome and amazing. He is the reason I do this whole marriage thing in the first place. It is in learning to first be His bride that I have learned how to be a husband (think about that one).

So there you have my true marriage blogger confessions.   There are others I could offer, but these are the ones that came to me first. If there’s a question you’d like me to answer, please leave a comment.

Others from the marriage blogging community are chiming in with their confessions. If you are a marriage blogger, jump on in.  If I missed your confession post, please add your link in the comments.

Kate from One Flesh Marriage – 10 Confessions of a Marriage Blogging Wife

Brad from One Flesh Marriage – 10 Confessions of a Marriage Blogging Husband

Lori - The Generous Wife – Confession Time
J from Hot, Holy and Humorous – 10 Confessions of a Marriage & Sex Blogger 

Julie from Intimacy in Marriage – 10 Confessions of a Sex-Blogger

Debi at Romantic Vineyard - Confessions of a Marriage Blogging Wife

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Kate and Brad Aldrich said...

Thanks for sharing more about "the man behind the keyboard". Like you one of the true privileges of blogging has been getting to know the community of voices lifting up God's words about marriage! Back when we started I had the worry that I would run out of things to say, but they keep coming!
Thanks for all of your wisdom! Keep typing!

Kate Aldrich said...

Hey my hubby beat me to the comments! :) Awesome list Scott! Wish I had added #4 because it is has been a huge blessing for us as well. #3 is so true and well said. We are so thankful for your blogging and deep wisdom on marriage! :)

Unknown said...

Hey Scott, I think I deal with #2 perfectionism, too. It's hard to simply pound a post out on the keyboard and hit publish. I agonize over them. Thanks for sharing these things. I agree that the marriage blog community is a wonderful forcefield for good!!

J said...

First of all, it completely cracked me up to read your statement about your proofing skills and then this phrase: "he’s and engineer." :D No worries. It was recently pointed out to me that I originally typed "nature vs. nature," instead of "nature vs. nurture" and I had to log back on and correct that. It happens.

Also, I read the informational plaques at museums too. It took FOREVER to go through the Smithsonian with me. LOL.

I hope you can finish editing that book and get it out sometime in the near future. Best wishes & keep blogging!

Scott said...

Thanks to you all, friends in the marriage blogging community.

And J, you get the award for finding the typo in this post. I would say I put it in just to give you a laugh, but I would be lying.

Anonymous said...

haha - I missed the one about "he's and engineer" - seriously though Scott, for being an admitted non-writer, I find your blogs very well written!

Scott said...

Thanks, Robyn, for your encouragement. And thanks for being a consistent reader and commenter. Much appreciated!

Anonymous said...

Thanks Scott for sharing. It was interesting to learn that you are an engineer. I hear you on the perfectionist thing. I think that's my best and worst trait - being a perfectionist over-achiever. Those things don't always mesh well with my marriage, but then sometimes they do. My husband does appreciate my extreme attention to detail, especially when I surprise him with something romantic. I think all the little details really do help and make moments special, and we try to celebrate the little things in our marriage.

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